“Blow jobs are an act of pleasure and intimacy, and can be a way for partners to show their love and appreciation for each other,” Moore says. And yes, they are inherently sexual, but they are also a way to explore each other’s bodies and get to know each other better. 

“The idea that blow jobs are dirty or disgusting is also false. As long as both partners are clean and healthy, there is no reason why giving or receiving a blow job should be seen as anything other than pleasurable and intimate,” Moore explains. AKA, it’s a perfectly natural and enjoyable act. 

That said, not everyone finds blow jobs to be the most approachable act. So if you’re not that confident in your head skills, you’re not alone. To help you out (or just give you a quick refresher) the following is a crash course in blow jobs, according to a sexologist. (Plus some fun tips and tricks to try out when you feel like it!) 

A Step-By-Step Breakdown, Just For You

Before you begin: “It is important to remember that communication is key. Make sure to communicate with your partner about what feels good and what doesn't,” Moore says. Okay? Here we go…

• Start by slowly and gently licking the head of the penis.

• Take your time and explore the entire shaft with your tongue, paying special attention to the sensitive areas such as the head, frenulum, and underside of the penis.

• Use your hands to caress the shaft of the penis while you are licking or sucking it.

• You can also use your hands to stimulate other erogenous zones such as the scrotum and perineum.

• Experiment with different techniques such as swirling your tongue around the head of the penis, using suction, or gently nibbling on the skin.

• Increase the intensity gradually as your partner becomes more aroused. You may feel their penis pulsate or grow harder. 

• When you feel like your partner is close to climax, increase the intensity of your movements and focus on the most sensitive areas.

You can do these moves until they reach climax or are otherwise feeling satisfied. Or, until you feel like stopping! You don’t have to bring them to orgasm with every blow job. Sometimes it’s just an appetizer to the main meal, yah know?

Some ~tips and tricks~ for you

• Use flavored lubricants or edible body paints for a fun twist!

• Try different positions such as kneeling in front of your partner or lying down next to them.

• Experiment with temperature by using ice cubes or warm water on the penis for an extra sensation.

• Use a vibrator or other sex toy on the penis for extra stimulation.

Alright, I think you’re ready to try some of these techniques out for yourself. Remember to have fun, too! 

Xo, 

Brittany Lo