Do you ever feel like your sex drive goes down during the winter months compared to the warmer ones? If so, it turns out you’re not alone. 

Estrogen and testosterone levels tend to drop during the winter, research shows, which means that, TBH, you may feel less sexual than normal overall. Plus, “cold weather can lead to decreased blood flow and lower overall energy levels, which may contribute to a decrease in libido,” explains sex and relationship counselor Dr. Martha Tara Lee.

Reduced exposure to sunlight can also reduce your serotonin levels, which can make you less likely to be in the mood for sex. And TBH? Seasonal affective disorder may have you feeling just plain SAD in the winter season, leading to depression and a lower sex drive, Lee explains. (Ugh. Not fun at all.) 

Basically, it’s not just you. The seasons can have an actual impact on your sex drive! But while this may make things feel totally out of your control, there are a few steps you can take to try combatting decreased feelings of sexual interest during the winter months. Here’s what you should know, per Lee… 

Communication Is 🔑

First things first: Openly discuss any concerns or changes in libido with your partner to ensure they’re understanding. Trust: A great partner will support you through this moment and won’t make you feel guilty for something that’s not in your control, K?

Prioritize Personal Care 🚿

Don’t forget to do activities that promote an overall healthier well-being. You know the basics! Exercise, healthy eating, self-care and getting enough sleep. Feeling better might just help you get your libido back ⬆️.

Seek Out Sunlight 🌞

Spend time outdoors during daylight hours (think: going on long walks, exercising outdoors, walking your pets, taking calls outside, etc.) or consider using light therapy to combat the effects of reduced sunlight. 

Dabble In Sexual Experiences ❤️‍🔥

In case you didn’t know: Trying new things in the bedroom can help reignite the passion and excitement you’re looking for this season. For starters, try experimenting with new positions, ~novel~ locations (shower sex, anyone?), toys, or role-playing scenarios. (And while you’re at it, snag some new intimacy serum, too!) 

Finally Don’t Be So Hard On Yourself 💜

“If seasonal changes significantly impact your mental health or sex drive, it may be beneficial to seek professional help from a therapist or counselor who specializes in seasonal affective disorder or sexual concerns,” Lee explains. 

That said, if you’re just feeling a little bit less sexual than normal, don’t be so darn hard on yourself. Seriously though! It’s completely normal for your sexual desires to ebb and flow. And if you find that in the winter you’re just not as aroused as you’d normally be, that’s literally fine. (As long as you’re OK with it!) 

And remember: the Beia community will be by your side all winter long, no matter your moods. 

We got you! 😁